tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post116603629018399669..comments2023-10-25T10:42:18.553-05:00Comments on Flutter of Hope: Empathy is not PityEsperanzahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14841585672805438897noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-89111634150236370022009-12-08T16:48:16.741-05:002009-12-08T16:48:16.741-05:00You express yourself very well and eloquently. I c...You express yourself very well and eloquently. I coach a high school team, and two of the girls lost their father in a motorcycle accident this weekend. I have been looking for ways to address the team about showing empathy rather than pity, other topics, and also things we can do. Your post has been insightful. Thank you, and I hope you are able to find peace within yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-1166812158368416032006-12-22T13:29:00.000-05:002006-12-22T13:29:00.000-05:00You always have a knack for putting to words what ...You always have a knack for putting to words what I think most IF'ers really feel. <BR/><BR/>By the way (nothing to do with your post), I'm not sure if your blog host does it the same way but if you want to find out how people are accessing your site there is probably some sort of link in your controls to "view visitor stats" or something along those lines. I found that I could view the visitors and there are hyperlinks that direct me back to the page that they came to me from. If they have your page bookmarked it doesn't work but if they come to you from say, BabyCenter or from MSN then you can go back to the page they came from. Good luck- and keep blogging- you have a talent with words!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-1166490997411311042006-12-18T20:16:00.000-05:002006-12-18T20:16:00.000-05:00Dianna-I too, am sorry for "friends" like that. F...Dianna-I too, am sorry for "friends" like that. For them to think that it is exhausting "avoiding" certian topics-I only wish the could experience the exhaustion that comes from the emotional roller coaster infertility causes. And while, yes, two wrongs don't make a right, you are not wrong in your feelings. and this isn't even a matter of right and wrong. We just want some understanding, and, ultimately, some empathy. I'm here for you girl. Lots of love.Cody and Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03970538108643371737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-1166487633189199362006-12-18T19:20:00.000-05:002006-12-18T19:20:00.000-05:00This is a WONDERFUL post, although your "friend" f...This is a WONDERFUL post, although your "friend" from above does not agree... Sorry, "Friend", you don't have empathy. I have erased what I want to say to you, because it is not very kind, and I'm a kind person. <BR/><BR/>Dianne, my therapist talked to me a lot about empathy. She said it was not something you could teach to someone, and that it is a gift. It isn't someone feeling sorry for you, or pitying you... These people do not have the capacity for empathy. Empathy is when someone who doesn't understand takes the time to listen and never judge. I had ONE friend (besides all of you guys) that I could talk to. <BR/><BR/>I am very proud of you for expressing yourself, even if some of your "friends" do not appreciate your honesty, which is what your blog is all about.... <BR/>I love you, I love you, I love you!!Joeihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00195963662030849044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-1166462555920078552006-12-18T12:22:00.000-05:002006-12-18T12:22:00.000-05:00This post saddens me immensely. I wish you could b...This post saddens me immensely. I wish you could be so eloquent when communicating with your actual friends and not just in your blog.<BR/>I wish you knew how I have been trying for over a year to understand your point of view as an "infertile" as you call yourself(s). As a "fertile" (or so you like to call me) I am hurt by this post and frankly I am exhausted from trying my very best to avoid certain topics or words when talking to you. And since I have come to the realization that I have nothing but pity for you...not pity for your "condition", but pity for how you are now reacting to the world around you. <BR/>I don't know why you expect me to be able to put myself in your shoes, when you can't seem to put yourself in mine. You don't seem to want to even try to see my constant struggle to communicate with you and to gain the necessary understanding of your life now in order for us to remain friends. <BR/>I have read this post many times and I wish you could realize that although it seems some other "infertiles" agree with you - 2 Wrongs don't necessarily make a Right.Legacy Userhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08277284196226122925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-1166103332241583642006-12-14T08:35:00.000-05:002006-12-14T08:35:00.000-05:00Wow, this is a great post! I've been feeling the s...Wow, this is a great post! I've been feeling the same way lately and you just happened to express it beautifully. I had a run-in with a "friend" this week and your post has given me an idea on how I can deal with her if she decides to bring up my infertility again. Thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-1166056941938379572006-12-13T19:42:00.000-05:002006-12-13T19:42:00.000-05:00awesome, awesome post. You took the words right o...awesome, awesome post. You took the words right out of my mouth-only made them all pretty and eloquent! Hope you find peace in your journey/decsions soon.Cody and Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03970538108643371737noreply@blogger.com