tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post1912167180759838045..comments2023-10-25T10:42:18.553-05:00Comments on Flutter of Hope: SisterhoodEsperanzahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14841585672805438897noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-72381854721521119582007-01-30T17:38:00.000-05:002007-01-30T17:38:00.000-05:00Dianne,
Thanks for this blog and thanks for being...Dianne, <br />Thanks for this blog and thanks for being a Venter. I have to tell you something though that might be shocking. <br />Infertility is lonely, I agree. But being pregnant via IVF -for me, it's still lonely. Why is that? Why is it every time someone says "Oh! Twins! Do they run in the family?" I shrivel down, gulp and shame faced say, "No", or even worse, "I'm not sure as I don't know half my biolgical history".<br /><br />The only place I feel at home is on the Venting Board, I've been absent for a few weeks due to 'morning sickness' and complete exhaustion, but I have missed you all and am doing my best to come back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-53999673485881445132007-01-30T16:23:00.000-05:002007-01-30T16:23:00.000-05:00wow, what a great post. I didn't have the denial, ...wow, what a great post. I didn't have the denial, when we hit 6 months and I wasn't PG yet I started using the term liberally. It shook my mom and Mr Kir and always got a reaction like, "oh sweetie you're not infertile , it just takes time" but I knew I was. I knew that somewhere around 4 months, but when I hit that cycle at 6 I was convinced. <br />Yet, in the 3 1/2 yrs that have followed, I never felt shame in the label. I guess because even when it sucked the life out of me (and it has) I knew that in some small way I could educate other people. Almost like "if I have to go through this, well so do you!" I think that it just comes down to what you hope to get out of this and like any other Karma freak (like I am ) she may feel that label brings on more M/C or more heartache. Denial is a very powerful thing. <br /><br />My blog is a safe place for me too and I think for all of us, that it's the one place where we can be ourselves and know we are not alone. <br /><br />SO thank you for that...reminding me I am not alone. :)Kirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17894442143508446312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-29307320060415249112007-01-27T09:35:00.000-05:002007-01-27T09:35:00.000-05:00I think accepting infertility means dealing with i...I think accepting infertility means dealing with it. And it sounds like she doesn't want to deal with it, which is human nature. <br />I have my own things in life I try to ignore, because I don't want to fix them. And I think if I ignore them they will go away. Just the opposite. <br />She'll come to deal with it in her own time.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01851059236142490659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-91739679280772892592007-01-26T19:50:00.000-05:002007-01-26T19:50:00.000-05:00I accepted the infertility diagnosis quickly, and ...I accepted the infertility diagnosis quickly, and even more quickly when we got our diagnosis. To me, it's like a cancer patient in denial. Useless. Get your butt on top of the game, and get moving towards fixing it.TeamWinkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00750935087962085588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-17064352246688872882007-01-26T18:12:00.000-05:002007-01-26T18:12:00.000-05:00Dianne -- it took me a LONG time to accept the ter...Dianne -- it took me a LONG time to accept the term "infertile" - even though we weren't getting pregnant. It seemed so... final. Like admitting that we could never have a baby. My guess is that your friend just doesn't like the term. She's still a sister in the trenches, she wants a baby and has suffered unimaginable losses. Poor thing. :(<br /><br />Anyway, I feel the same way about my fellow bloggers. I am not alone, you all form a protective circle around me. And I can be strong. <br /><br />You AREN'T alone in this. That's the good news.Serenityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17765237663006604157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-61656017126087131792007-01-26T16:46:00.000-05:002007-01-26T16:46:00.000-05:00My blog has been a life saver, and it's all becaus...My blog has been a life saver, and it's all because it reminds me that I am not alone. Good times.Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01904286943340898221noreply@blogger.com