tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post7187547637583270669..comments2023-10-25T10:42:18.553-05:00Comments on Flutter of Hope: EasterEsperanzahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14841585672805438897noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-2586815234196823012007-04-13T19:58:00.000-05:002007-04-13T19:58:00.000-05:00I'm pretty open about IF (except at work), but I c...I'm pretty open about IF (except at work), but I can see the argument for keeping things private. Having friends with strong religious objections to ART would make things even trickier. It seems to me that their objections are their own issue, not yours, but I can understand why you wouldn't want to put yourself in that position. My parents are actually religious Catholics, and they know about and support my decision to pursue IVF, so you never know, but obviously it's a big gamble sharing this kind of information. I think you're wise to keep it to yourself if you're not certain. Once it's out, you can't push it back into the closet.<BR/><BR/>Good luck coping with your feelings.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02747382929049494704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-34927230442642218742007-04-09T16:39:00.000-05:002007-04-09T16:39:00.000-05:00I want to tell people, and I don't. I'm freaking o...I want to tell people, and I don't. I'm freaking out about the article that will be out soon, since it means I'll be waayyy more public and I don't know if I can handle that.<BR/><BR/>But the best part is that if you are more open then you will get more support. And if you keep it a secret, then you will never get any support, even from the nice kind people in your life.Aureliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13691032415028867902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-40897128286091931302007-04-09T09:03:00.000-05:002007-04-09T09:03:00.000-05:00D. and I are very open about our infertility but s...D. and I are very open about our infertility but sometimes that comes back and bites me in the ass (as you read in my post). For myself, being open works, but some days I wish I had never said a damn thing about even wanting kids.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-46512940471472916522007-04-07T13:21:00.000-05:002007-04-07T13:21:00.000-05:00That is alot of conflicting emotions. And IF is a...That is alot of conflicting emotions. And IF is always good for that! Make the decision to come out when you feel the time is right, not based on anything else. And there's nothing wrong with some people knowing, and others not. Last time I looked, Hallmark hadn't yet come out with an "I'm Infertile!" card that you could send out to family, friends and acquaintances. (Thank G*d for that.)<BR/><BR/>Be kind to yourself about the contradictions. We all feel them.Adriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12290007044439581358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-47612217806019800642007-04-07T11:10:00.000-05:002007-04-07T11:10:00.000-05:00Dealing with being open with ART could be tricky. ...Dealing with being open with ART could be tricky. I choose the people I discuss it with because although it's hard to deal with IF, it's even harder to explain it to those who just don't get it.<BR/><BR/>Happy Easter Dianne!Baby Blueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09283845137728737575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-35990313658723240542007-04-06T15:13:00.000-05:002007-04-06T15:13:00.000-05:00Have a wonderful Easter. And I don't blame you...a...Have a wonderful Easter. And I don't blame you...at all. Sometimes avoiding it is hard but at the same time you have to pick what's less harder on you mentally. No one is going to argue with you.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12519224953463428308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-57781345528111293842007-04-06T15:12:00.000-05:002007-04-06T15:12:00.000-05:00I don't blame you for being 50/50 out about the in...I don't blame you for being 50/50 out about the infertility situation. Not one bit. You are not a contradiction at all, you are human with a right to make your own decision about who to talk to about your most intimate struggles. Have a nice Easter my friend, with lots of wine.Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01904286943340898221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-44900495917215043952007-04-06T14:02:00.000-05:002007-04-06T14:02:00.000-05:00I think I'm with you--I'll tell people if they ask...I think I'm with you--I'll tell people if they ask about it, but I'm not going to just bring it up on my own. I did that once, on a day I was feeling particularly sad and was working out at Curves. The woman working there asked how I was, and I told her, honestly (the very, very short version, of course). She seemed stunned, and mumbled something like, "Well, I'm sure it will happen for you soon." It was obvious that infertility was complete outside her realm of understanding.<BR/><BR/>I hope you have a wonderful Easter!Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08514262423005456861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669025.post-32296285466830951872007-04-06T13:28:00.000-05:002007-04-06T13:28:00.000-05:00I also have struggled a lot with who to tell/when ...I also have struggled a lot with who to tell/when to tell. I don't know what people's reactions will be, and don't want to get hurt. Also to a certain extent I feel like IF is kind of private. If I get pg and start showing, then it becomes obvious to the world, but before that I not necessary want everyone knowing.<BR/><BR/>I had a really difficult time last summer going through a chemical pregnancy when a lot of people who I didn't know that well ended up finding out about my second IVF cycle and then all wanting to know how things went. Telling people, "I don't if I'm pregnant" was not what they expected or seemed to undserstand, and I didn't really feel like explaining it. So I know why you might prefer not to tell.<BR/><BR/>I hope you have a peaceful Easter.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02799401502134619497noreply@blogger.com