Monday, May 19, 2008

Pleasing myself.

This weekend with a minor break down/break though. I came to a few realizations with T’s help.

In the last few weeks, I’ve been sad for a few reasons:

1. My friends are few and far between.
2. I feel lost and need to find my plan B.

Most of my friends don’t live around here. I have a few acquaintances which have potential to be better friends, but I don’t always reach out. I automatically assume individuals are too busy and they may be, but who am I to say? Unless I ask, I’ll never know.

Also, I don’t network or make friends easily. I need to get out there and meet people. It is something that I’ve tried before, but admittedly with no success. I am a little shy in that respect and usually let people come to me. But, since that isn’t working, I am on a mission.

Today was a little slow at work. With some extra time and my recent realization, I found two book clubs, a few pilates and yoga classes, and a graduate program which interests me. Hopefully that will open a few doors.

I also found a graduate program that interests me, looking into the possibility of taking a class in the fall – to try it out.

Lets see what happens with plan B.


Morrisa said...

I think that sounds like a great idea. I have very few friends too, mainly because I always assume that all women my age are fetile!

Pamela T. said...

You'll find your way again. Transitions are tough times in life. We crave a sense of comfortable routine and yet it's not always there for the taking. In looking back on times when I've been forced to redirect, I recall how hard it was in the early days yet in time how many new doors and experiences opened up to me...

Cynthia said...

I know what you mean about people coming in and out of your life. My husband and I moved to a new state a couple of years ago, and I still don't have what I like to call *close* friends. If people talk to me, I'll chit chat and answer any questions and actually welcome a good conversation, but I don't think people pick up on the fact that I'm dying for some good friendship. :-) I'm not the first to ask so-so friends to go shopping and stuff like that, either. It's hard. It reminds me of school and growing up. If you ever want to chit chat, come over at

I like your plans!

Lollipop Goldstein said...

Transitions are rough. It is so much easier to slog along on a path you already know. I'm proud of you for taking the initiative and finding new outlets.

What is the grad school class?

loribeth said...

Sounds like a great plan. It's hard to make friends as an adult, especially when you're working & commuting, & most especially when you don't have the social glue of children. I'm also interested in what grad program you're thinking about!

Miss Schlegel said...

"the social glue of children" — what an excellent way to put it. I have several very dear friends. For a start, I plundered my husband's friends — there's a woman he went to school with who's become one of my greatest friends. Others I met through a political volunteer organisation we were in years ago — obviously, we agree on much, so friendship came easily. If you like someone, sometimes you've just got to bit the bullet and say, "Would you like to have a coffee sometime?"

I hope this doesn't sound too advice-y. But I empathise — I'm shy too — and that's how I did it.