Sunday, September 24, 2006


My 21 year old cousin B died today.

His battle with brain tumors started 12 years ago, involved three brain surgeries, chemo, radiation and ended with a massive brain aneurism.

From the very beginning he had strength, courage, selflessness beyond his age. He never complained about his situation. Never asked "Why me?" Always more concerned for those left behind. He taught me so many lessons even though I was his senior by 8 years.

Today, while he was unconscious I told him these things. I also told him that he was my hero. He is, has always been, an example of a person that I should aspire to be like.

As I mourn, I will remember the lessons he has taught me. Carry them with me forever, along with all the happy moments. I will try to stop asking "Why B?" After all he truly was the very best of us all. And, if there was anyone that God would want near him, it would be him.

As I know he was always mostly concerned with his family, please pray for them with me.

May God's peace and grace fill their hearts' in this time of need. May his healing qualities enrich them in this difficult time and may they realize that they are not alone. I ask this in the name of your son, Jesus. AMEN.


Anonymous said...

I'm sorry for your family's loss.

Anonymous said...

My thoughts and tears are with you and your entire family.

God is lucky to have him. God does seem to take the best of us and we can consider ourselves lucky to have had those people in our lives for as long as we did.

And although Bobby couldn't respond to you, he heard you.

Love you!!!

Turtle_Dove said...

D. - May you and your family find the strength and guidence that you need during this difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you Sweetie. I know that you will someday find the answers for yourself and stop asking "Why"?, but I believe that HE sends people like B into our lives to bless us and teach us HIS ways when we sometimes can't see past ourselves to appreciate the little things.

GOD bless you and your family.
You are loved!

EB said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family D - if you need ANYthing just say the word and we'll be there for you.

I know we always understand "why" things happen but know that we will be there to help you get through it.

Anonymous said...


I'm so sorry for this terrible loss. Your cousin sounds like an amazing young man. You and your family are in my thoughts.

Anonymous said...

So sorry for your loss. What a special young man B must have been to give so much, so selflessly to his family. May you always carry his memory and lessons close to your heart, and take comfort in knowing he is in a better place....My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Somewhat Ordinary said...

I'm so sorry for your family's loss. It sounds like your cousin was a wonderful guy and it never makes sense why these things happen to great people. You are in my thoughts.

Joei said...

I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like he was a really special guy. He really taught you a lot. Hold onto his memories.
You are in my thoughts.

Anonymous said...

Dianne, I am praying hard for you and your family. Our Pastor recently said that God has a plan, and that if we knew what that plan was, we would be in awe of His perfection and unable to thank Him enough. It is hard to remember that when bad things happen. I will pray that He gives you strength and peace.