Friday, April 27, 2007

A baby shower.

On Sunday, I get the pleasure of going to a baby shower with my mother and all of my mother's female extended family members. Yes, if you sensed sarcasm in that sentence, it was intended.

I would rather....clean toilets....drink fish oil....have a BFN.

But, it is for my cousin. A cousin who didn't tell me she was pregnant. A cousin that I am clearly not friends with. However, we are related. And in order to preserve what little relationship we have. I've decided to go.

Oh, yeah. I also decided to go, because it is easier to go than listen to my mother telling me "That I am a terribly selfish person who isn't happy for anyone because I can't have what they have. And that I have been completely insufferable since starting to take hormones."

What fun awaits me.....oh what fun.

15 comments:

Aurelia said...

I want to pinch your mother.

Yes, bad me. :)

I hope you make it and everything goes well. Or is at least slightly bearable.

PCOSMama said...

I say come down with the stomach flu that day. Your mom can take the gift for you and you can send a card saying how sorry you are you couldn't make it, blah blah blah. But that's just me!

Sticky Bun said...

Word, pcosmama! Dianne, you're looking a little peaked to me. :-)

Seriously, ugh. So sorry. Wishing you the best. You're braver than I!

Jen said...

ummmm, i'd rather poke hot pins in my eyes than go to a baby shower, and in fact i avoid them at all costs UNLESS they are for a best friend or fellow infertile. otherwise my gift with "regrets" gets sent along with someone else going to the shower... so yeah, i feel a migraine coming on just thinking about your cousin's :wink:

Baby Blues said...

Just because she said that, I wouldn't go! Ok even if she didn't say that, I still wouldn't go. They just don't get it! It's not being selfish. It's just being true to oneself and avoiding the hurt.

LJ said...

Okay, I am really a nice person, but I have snarky thoughts obviously.

My mom and I have a very good relationship, so if she EVER said that to me, I'd say - "Well, that's okay, since losing your hormones to menopause, you're a real work too!" Then we'd both laugh.

Except your mom was serious, and that's not funny. So think it, and smirk. :)

Sara said...

Your forehead feels warm. Leaving the house could be terribly dangerous.

If you do go, best of luck. You're a brave woman.

serenity said...

You know... I'd probably tell my mother to stuff it if she ever said anything like that to me. Probably a good thing she hasn't, I suppose.

You ARE looking really pale - I think it would be best if you stayed home tomorrow and rested.

*hug*

Nicole said...

Oh please don't let me meet your mother in a dark alley. I am so sorry that you feel compelled to go to this shower. I will be thinking of you.

Samantha said...

Hope you got the stomach flu today :)

And I'm also catching up with your thoughts about IVF and Catholicism. I'm not a Catholic, but I am like you in that I had to convert a timed intercourse cycle to IVF because my ovaries just make too many follies! I decided to go ahead with the conversion, but I just wanted you to know I know how difficult the decision is, regardless of which way you make it. I'll be interested to hear more of your thoughts as you wrestle with this thorny issue.

Rachel said...

Ugh. How unbelievably horrible. Your mother needs to be given some information about what it's like to deal with infertility. But you have raised yourself above the level of all these people despite what you are dealing with. So you win. Good luck.

The Town Criers said...

Oh for the love...you're probably there as I write this so I am sending good thoughts to you. Hope that they at least had good desserts (I'm trying to look for any silver lining).

Kate said...

Geez. Don't let other people tell you that you should feel bad about not wanting to go. Even if it is family you shouldn't have to torture yourself. Hang in there...

Piccinigirl said...

Oh I am so sorry, I wouldn't care what my mom said to me, I wouldn't go. Yet you are a strong, amazing person and I hope that yesterday wasn't so bad.
*hug*

Chili said...

You totally need to come down with a sudden illness. Send a gift with your mother if you want to, but skip the actual event and take a spa day!

If I was your mother's daughter, I'd have kicked her by now. ;)